2016 Wisdom

By all negative or positive metrics, 2016 has been one hell of a year. Personally, it will be marked as a year of drastic geographic changes. I started the year in Central America, then moved back to the Southeast United States and am finishing it in California (pictured).

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As a man who appreciates the growth that comes with struggle, I will look back on 2016 fondly. Nonetheless, I am eager for this next January 1st and the 364 days after. Simply stated, I look forward to 2017.

I documented some of my adventures and musings on this and my other blog throughout the year. I told you about my time abroad, my music preferences, New Year’s resolutions, eating habits and gave you other glimpses into my life.

In this post, I have copied memorable quotes from books, movies, meditations, and articles I came across this year. Some of them are more profound than others, but drafting this post will have been well worth it if one of you finds one of the quotes useful.

The final two evoked the most visceral response for me. The last one most closely aligns with the most significant event of my year, which involved the death of loved one. It came from a scene in Westworld in which Delores (Evan Rachel Wood) explains the benefit of leaning into grief. It hit me hard.

Enjoy these and my favorite picture of the year. Comment if you like!

“The Real Reason We Need to Stop Trying to Protect Everyone’s Feelings”

-Ryan Holiday-

“Some of us find humor in everything, some of us do not. It’s important too—but those of us that believe it and live our lives by a certain sensitivity cannot bully other people into doing so too. That sort of defeats the purpose.”

“If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation.”

“Control and discipline of one’s own reactions make for a successful person and a functioning society.”

From “The Art of Manliness” blog

“While you may never have to fight off an armed attacker or save someone from drowning in a river, there’s a 100% probability that every day you’re going to need the qualities of courage, hardihood, resilience, and so on to deal with life’s little annoyances, lead your family, and excel in your career. Thus, wanting such training, and desiring such qualities, is the most rational thing is the world.”

“Because if there’s one thing you should be paranoid about, it’s living a life in which you never develop your full capacities as a man.”

The Hard Thing About Hard Things, Ben Horowitz

“[He] was a brilliant thinker who could encapsulate complex ideas into pithy sentences with ease”

“Humans, particularly those who build things, only listen to leading indicators of good news.”

“There comes a time in a company’s life when it must fight for its life.”

“All the mental energy you use to elaborate your misery would be far better used trying to find the one seemingly impossible way out of your current mess.”

The 48 Laws of Power, Robert Greene

“Do not imagine that your master’s dependence on you will make him love you.”

“By knowing other people’s secrets, by holding information that they wouldn’t want broadcast, you seal your fate with theirs.”

“[He] knew that most men build up defenses against the crooks and other troublemakers. The con artist’s job is to bring those defenses down.”

“An act of kindness, generosity, or honesty is often the most powerful form of distraction because it disarms other people’s suspicions.”

“[He] was already a millionaire through strong-arming and deception.”

“During social gatherings and innocuous encounters, pay attention. This is when people’s guards are down. By suppressing your own personality, you can make them reveal things.”

“If people suspect you are worming secrets out of them through conversation, they will strictly avoid you.”

“Give them a false confession and they will make you a real one.”

“An understanding of people’s motives is the single greatest piece of knowledge you can have in acquiring power.”

“Never discriminate as to whom you study and whom you trust. Never trust anyone completely and study everyone.”

“To some people the notion of playing power games—no matter how indirect—seems evil, asocial, a relic of the past. They believe they can opt out of the game by behaving in ways that have nothing to do with power. You must beware of such people… they are after often the most adept players at power.”

“If you attempt to treat everyone equally and fairly, you will confront the problem that some people do certain things better than others. Treating everyone equally means ignoring their differences, elevating the less skillful and suppressing those who excel. Many who behave this way are just redistributing people’s rewards in a way they determine.”

“Honesty is a power strategy—convince people of one’s noble character. It is a form of persuasion, even a subtler form of coercion. Those who make a show of innocence are the least innocent of all.”

“An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power – anger the most destructive of all emotional responses.”

“You must learn to judge all things by what they cost you – apply this to everything –including whether to collaborate or come to people’s aid.”

The Match, Mark Frost

“Not enough of the meaningful prizes in life are contested solely for honor anymore, for the love of the thing itself, or the undiluted satisfaction of testing your mettle against the best you can find and, win or lose, walking away the better for it because the truths it enabled you to face and find out about yourself.”

How to Get Filthy Rich in Rising AsiaMohsin Hamid

“Achieving a massive bank balance demonstrably attracts fine physical specimens desperate to give their love in exchange for affection. Achieving love tends to do the opposite. It dampens the fire in the steam furnace of ambition, robbing of essential propulsion an already fraught upriver journey to the heart of financial success.”

“There are times when the currents leading to wealth can manage to pull you along regardless of whether you kick and paddle in the opposite direction.”

Moonwalking with Einstein, Josh Foer

“Brains are notoriously trickier to quantify than brawn.”

“Normal is not necessarily natural.”

“Monotony collapses time. Novelty unfolds it.”

“If you spend your life sitting in a cubicle and passing papers, one day is bound to blend unmemorably into the next and disappear. That’s why it’s important to change routines regularly and take vacations to exotic locales, and have as many new experiences as possible that can serve to anchor our own memories.”

“Creating new memories stretches out psychological time and lengthens our perceptions of our lives.”

“…you’ve got to work on the assumption that you’re going to do better in practice than you’ll do in the tournament.”

(Quoting Bruce Lee) “There are no limits. There are plateaus, but you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you.”

Oprah and Deepak—21 Day Meditation

“There is nothing enlightened in shrinking so that other people don’t feel insecure.”

Talk Like Ted, Carmine Gallo

“Authentic happiness can only come from the long-term cultivation of wisdom, altruism, and compassion, and from complete eradication of mental toxins, such as hatred, grasping, and ignorance.”

“(Quoting Melissa Cardon) “When you are passionate about something you can’t help yourself from thinking about it, acting on it, and talking about it with other people”

“The passion that man has for his personal growth is the most important thing.”

‘(Quoting Dale Carnegie) The ideas I stand for are not mine. I borrowed them from Socrates. I swiped them from Chesterfield. I stole them from Jesus.  And  put them in a book. If you don’t like their rules, whose would you use?”

“The ability to tell a story is an essential trait of authentic leadership—people who inspire effort.”

“90% of all businesses fail, yet 80% of business owners never try a second time.”

“People don’t know what they want. And if they do, they have a hard time articulating what they truly desire.”

“(Quoting Isabel Allende) Nice people with common sense do not make interesting characters. They only make good former spouses.”

“Power posing increases testosterone and lowers cortisol levels in the brain.”

“I like to refer to dopamine as the “save button” of the brain. When dopamine is present during an event or experience, we remember it; when it is absent, nothing seems to stick.”

Seeing What Others Don’t: the Remarkable Ways We Gain Insight, Gary Klein

“When we put too much energy into eliminating mistakes, we’re less likely to gain insights.”

“…..Four stage model of insight: preparation, incubation, illumination, and verification.”

“While the idea of deliberate preparation appeals to our work ethic—and is, of course, crucial for many types of work—it was not the factor in the insights attained….”

“Insight cannot be taken back. You cannot return to the moment you were in before.”

“We tend to notice coincidences, associations we don’t fully understand based on relationships we can’t articulate. People who can pick up on trends, spot patterns, wonder about irregularities, and notice coincidences are an important resource.”

“While the idea of deliberate preparation appeals to our work ethic—and is, of course, crucial for many types of work.”

“Curiosities are unlikely to get us in trouble. If we examine a curiosity that doesn’t lead anywhere, we’ve just wasted some time. In contrast, coincidences can mislead us.”

“People aren’t accidentally stumbling onto insights. They are actively searching for them”

“All we can conclude is that we’re likely to miss the insight if we rely on a flawed belief.”

The Graveyard Book, Neil Gaiman

“You’re alive Bod. That means you have infinite potential. You can do anything, make anything, dream anything. If you change the world, the world will change. Potential. Once you’re dead, its gone, over. You’ve made what you’ve made. Dreamed your dream. Written your name. You may even be buried here. You may even walk, but that potential…. Is gone.”


Delores: “You think the grief will make you smaller inside. Like your heart will collapse in on itself, but it doesn’t. I feel spaces opening up inside me like a building with rooms I’ve never explored.”





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